If any of you are exaggeratedly guilty, dismissive of the other’s feelings, show disapproval for the other’s way of life or appealing in stonewalling strategy you are at high risk for separation. When argument is avoided or unhelpful defense mechanisms are engaged when trying to deal with conflict you are not allowing strong conflict resolution in fact you’re pushing someone to be a cheating spouse.

It can be the kiss of death for any kind of relationship including marriage. If the harmful side outweighs the good in your marriage, then it’s in trouble and in need of help. If there is more problem than paradise, you need to get help in learning how to deal with the issues causing the troubles in the marriage.